Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey all this is about strange fetishes. I like to eat food out of girls pussies.
Hmmm rather disterbing. But I ones knew a dude that was in to smelling feet.
I have a fetish for elderly men and smokers, especially Greek ones. It's mostly because of rebetika, the type of music I listen to and how old the men who sang it would be if any of them were still living. I started to wonder what it would be like to be with an older man and then it turned into a fetish/fantacy. Mind you, I would never stalk or disrespect them or anything, nor would I go with one if he wasn't mentally competent. They just really turn me on. My boyfriend isn't exactly elderly at 62, and he's not a smoker, but he is Greek and I went and fell totally in love with him, so there you go. Still, my head always turns when I hear someone who sounds older. He knows and laughs at it.
Oh, as for feet, I hear that one's pretty normal, along with underwear etc. I can't say I find any of that attractive, but anyway. Here's a page I found on all sorts of fetishes. I warn you, some of these are fun, some are strange, some are absolutely discusting and some are illegal. Neither I nor the website advocates these. They're merely definitions. This is not a porn site.
http://www.ticklishsubject.com/varietyfetishes.html
Using food in the manner described above or in other ways during sex is not an uncommon feddish. The only caussion is that if overly sugary foods are actually inserted into the vagina it might cause a yeast infection or other irritation. But, other than that, if your partner and you agree, go for it. Foot feddishes are not at all uncommon either as accurately stated above. It must be noted though that someone may enjoy stimulating their partner's feet, having their own feet stimulated, using the feet in more involved ways during sex or experementing with foods in and on the body during sex with out actually having either a foot feddish or a food feddish. I'm sure it says somewhere on the afore mentioned web site that a feddish is defined as a preoccupation with something to the extent that someone can derive sexual satasfaction from the object or body part alone and or that they can not have satasfying sex with out the involvement of their desired object, substance or body part. If a feddish isn't hurting anyone and both parties agree that it is acceptable to them there is really nothing wrong with a feddish as long as the preoccupation does not keep the feddisher from leading a happy and healthy life in and outside of the bedroom.
well the closest i come is bundling but that doesn't begin to describe my feddish! the woman must be asleep before anything can happen!
well i shouldn't must be asleep but it's preferable for her to be asleep! fake sleep works until i notice how she sleeps one time for about 5 minutes then fake sleep don't work no more!
Alrighty then. Never heard of that one before.
lol Neither have I. Very interesting.
u think that is bad? there r some people who are into using diapers as a fetish
yeah guess mine is so strange they don't have a name for it or decided not to bother putting it up on the website!
I don't think it's bad, just interesting. Now diapers and human fluids (excluding cum)... Ok, I'm not even going there. Can we say discusting?
lol
thanks i use to lose a lot of interest right away when i said that thank god my fiance is very accomidating huge smile!
u have a diaper fetish lazy?
Disgusting? Well, that's a moral judgment and I try not to impose my morals on others, because as soon as I do, I give them the right to impose their morals on me.
I am against imposing my will on others, and anything with kids. But, beyond that I reserve the right to say "thanks, but no thanks."
I once knew a girl who was into diaper play, and must admit that taking care of another's needs, and having my needs taken care of, was nice. But, I don't need a diaper to do that, but she thought she did, so, why not?
Becky, forget the crappy jokes about practicing for the future.
Bob
no not that i have a sleep feddish read posts above!
oh. well the only problem is if your partner is sleeping, she will either wake or is unknown of the things u doo to her in her sleep
I love how men get erections in their sleep... lol I forgot to mention my penis fetish. To me, male anatomy, especially when uncircumsized, is absolutely amazing.
eeeeew. i think the penus is the ugliest thing in the world. yet it feels so good inside of me.
not to mention the uncircumsized penus. my last bf didn't have his circumcised. he kept himself clean always, but there was always the faint smell of sperm that lingered around him even though he pulled back his foreskin and washed underneath it 3 or 4 times a day. the smell of it was really a turn off to me.
ahh but you are forgetting something! there are four brain wave stages! two awake and two asleep! for my purposes alpha and beta don't count! and you are refuring to delta! it's theta i'm interested in! or rather going from delta to theta! in english from deep sleep to what they call half asleep and half awake! usually accompanied by what to me is a very sexy moan! the woman must of course have a thin voice the thinner the voice the less pitch matters! if the voice is thick it must be high!
Bob, get your hands out of your diaper!
Lazy, sounds like you're lucky to have found a fiance who is exactly what you want and lets you do exactly what you want.
I don't think I could be with someone who was so hung up on a fetish that he could not have sex otherwise. That would be too monotonous.
yes i know how lucky i am! i searched for 37 years for her! can't wait til february 29 2008!
Hey Becky, look what I found.
I think fetishes become problems when that's the only way you can find enjoyment.
I once got it in my mind that I wanted to have sex in the back seat of a car. Not being a driver, it seemed to me that it would be terrible if I never got to have this "wonderful" experience.
I really think I was obsessed with it.
I found a willing partner, no driver yet, as she was blind also. However, I coerced a friend of mine who was a cab driver, to take us to a secluded spot in his cab and leave us alone.
It turned out to be a terrible experience. Uncomfortable as hell, and we two were laughing so hard that sex was the furtherist thing from our minds.
But, had I not had that experience, I would probably be obsessing over how great it would be today.
Sex in a car is strictly for the desperate and inexperienced.
Bob
omg wow, have you heard of that feddish where girls like to pretend getting raped or something..
I think I vaguely remember reading about that one, but i'm not sure what the technical name for it is. sounds messed up, though. lol
Lol strange feddishes? I don't have any.... I know someone who's feddish is well, having dogs eat them out. I lso know someone who's feddish is licking oes... Quincy? I'm glad when we were dating you didn't do that stuff to me!
I read about a guy that was soooo obsessed with smelling shoes, he had to work at a bowling allie his whole life. He would always be the one to close it, and spend 3 hours every night smelling every shoe in there.
my x's had some pretty interesting ones and i don't just mean wind pants, but they are zoners so I'll keep that one quiet... as for some of these. Ww people are special. I think my feddish is tame now. lol
my gosh rissarose, your story makes me sick! how very sad, gee I dunno!
and yeh, getting dogs to eat owners out, is not too uncommon!
there was a news story posted here a while ago about a guy in florida who was charged with having his guide dog do that!
Any kind of beastiality makes me sick, unless it's some kind of scifi alien stuff and totally fantacy. Just the thought of animals with humans makes me go, um, next, now! And to think that these guide dogs are suffering through this, and please, for the love of The Gods, don't tell me they're dogs and enjoy it. That's like having sex with children and saying they enjoy it. Just sick!
i agree with tiffs post. wtf is up with these men and their guide dogs? first it was a man... raping, eeeew... his guide dog, and now this? damn! how in the hell can people treat such, loving, gentle, and devoted creatures like that?
hahahahaha wo! OK, I'll give this one life.
I don't understand the foot fedish thing, I think feet are just things that help you stand. Nothing fun to play with there. I think eating food off of a guy's body would make me gag, and letting a guy eat something out of my yoohoo would feel way to weird. Letting animals suck you off or eat you out or whatever is beyond sick and makes the earth turn under me just thinking about it. That's sad, oh, and so is the smelling shoes one, by the way. LOL, my only fedish, and yes it's sick, but probably a lot more common, is roll playing really demented situation. Like daddy daughter, mother son, brother sister, horny doctor, all kinds of weird shit. hahaha :) sorry
Oh yeah, I also love jerking guys off and straddling them. Just thought I'd put that out there, not sure if it's a fedish or what, but it turns me on. I also love being dominant in the bedroom and being really mean. mmmmm
hi all,
well I have a few personal interests, which I see no need to describe here, enough to say they are uncommon and not illegal in any way. My substantive contribution to this dialogue is simply to say that fetishes can be damaging, to a relationship, to selfworth if they develop at a young age and to relations with friends if they find out things and think you are...just that little bit too weird. Its not always so simple. and also, don't characterise as right and wrong, if you've not felt an attraction to something, been castigated for it, ETC ETC, and still cannot deny your interest in it? you've got no right to judge anyone elses.
Absolutely. None of us can help what turns us on.
regarding one of rebel womans posts, Mmmm. role play can be quite fun.
I think uncut is the best in bed and am very much against male and female circumcision in general, but that's for another topic. I totally agree that if a fetish takes over to the point where you can't have sex without it, it's a serious problem. I may like certain things, but most aren't necessary for me to enjoy myself. Those that are are preferences and not fetishes. As far as rape fantacies, I'll never understand that as long as I live. I could almost understand very light bondage play (maybe getting tied with some light fabric and tickled with a feather or kissed all over or something) but rape? Gods no! To be honest, I'm not sure how I'd feel if someone who was seriously having those fantacies was really raped and came to me either. No innocent person should ever be raped. But how innocent is someone when they literally ask for it?
I've already expressed my views on the dogs and think those people, if they've actually done it as adults, either should be shot or sent to mental institutions. The shoe one is funny. At least he wasn't hurting anyone and found a safe outlet for his fetish. While I'm completely against incest and don't take kindly to the idea of role-playing something like that, I guess it's better than living it out for real, so long as it's contained to mentally competent adults who are just play acting. But role play in general, boss-secretary, teacher-student, cop-criminal etc. can be fun. Giving handjobs and going ontop is amazing!
I think mental help should be sought for the protection of the potential victim, and maybe even for the person with the fetish if the fetish involves harming living beings or sexual actions with anyone underage or mentally incompetent. That, and people should be considerate of those who may not share their ideas. Other than that, live and let live.
Very well said above, Eleni.
On the subject of websites, another one people can go to is:
www.fetlife.com
ooh yeah, teacher/student is one of my favorites as is boss/secretary. It can also be interesting to role play something historical, the middle ages, victorian England, etc. I like lite bondage, if she likes to be tied up with fabric or bondage tape etc. I wouldn't say that is a fetish of mine though, watching a girl get herself off, one way or another, does more for me than bondage etc.
Oh yeah, I like teacher-student. mmm, that one's fun. :) I roll play damn near everything, you name it and I probably have done it in the past, or at least fanticised about it.
Is oral sex a fedish I wonder. If it is, that's another one of mine. mmmmmmm, I LOVE THAT! I love receiving more than giving, probably because I'm like super super super sensitive. haha, damn it I better stop talking about the. :)
Jessie
I guess oral sex could be considered a fettish. I wonder what defines a fettish. Hmmm.
Oral! Mmmmm! I love giving more than receiving, and yes, I'd say that, with me at least, it's a fetish. But that really is a good question. When does something become a fetish as opposed to just a casual thing to enjoy?
lol lol lol. you all amuse me a bunch!
I really don't care what people do as far as sex stuff goes, i mean if you asked me about it I'd tell you that is nasty but! the best part is to sit here and laugh my ass off over some of the crazy shit, wait, I'm sure someone likes to get shit on. but yes the crazy ass stuff people get in to.
Keep em comming!
Anthony wrote: "Absolutely. None of us can help what turns us on." thing is, where does that change from being a turn-on to something disturbing? It could be argued that paedophiles being turned on by the site of children is something they have no control over and cannot help, yet I don't imagine that anyone here would be saying we shouldn't judge them?
Does there not come a point at which one must question whether what gets you aroused is actually healthy or whether you should perhaps question whether you need to seek some professional help?
If and when we ever come in to contact with sentient life, two consulting, of age sentient beings can go at it all they want. just don't advertise it to the world, don't bother anyone with it and there you go. but bestiality, ugg, iw, that just makes me nauseous. Ok and as for fetishes, I heard of the one where girls rp getting raped, that's just disturbing. I like really soft hair, and playing with people's hair, but no, it's not a fetish, it's more useful if you're cuddling or comforting someone.
To Claire: Good point, of course. I stick to what I said though. Noone can help what turns them on. However, when a turn on gets to the point where children or nonconsent is coming in to play, that's when it's time to seek help. If someone is turned on by children though, all the counsiling in the world won't make that fetish go away. The same with any other fetish or turn on. as long as all parties involved are legal and consentual, there really shouldn't be a problem. As far as judging, Why judge someone for something they can't help? If you put yourself in the paedophile's shoes for a moment. Think about how lonely and misunderstood you would probably feel, and the guilt of having such a fetish to begin with. Sure, some people have no remorse or guilt, and those are the people that are the real threat.
Those are the people who should euthanise themselves for the benefit of all. That's the only way to cure that kind.
christe, you're ignerent. Sorry, but this topic and I have a long history and unless you've been in the situation of feeling guilt for your interest? don't come out against something you don't understand. I'm not into kids or anything crazy, no where near it, in fact, but I understand guilt, questioning your nature, ETC ETC. to 48, very intelligent and well-thought out post. I live with my interests now, but acceptance problems by family at first by people in dorms second and other stuff has meant that it takes a long time to get there. Do I wish I didn't have such interests? every damn day. But you gotta do what you gotta do, lol. I didn't ask for this, and nor I'm sure do some people with underage interests. I would never condone their actions, nor would I be exactly comfortable with one as a friend, I won't deny that for a moment. But seeing both sides is the only way for progress to be made. Don't accept everything, but at least think everything through, and if you don't understand it, then keep shut.
or, at least be willing to say you don't understand.
Damn Anthony, I cannot believe you're defending paedophiles.
Well, if not having compassion for paedophiles makes me ignorant, then I'm happy to oblige.
You don't make yourself an outcast by having undisclosed feelings, you do so by acting upon them.
And while it could be argued that perhaps we don't ave the power to decide what does and doesn't turn us on, we do have the power to act on it, or not.
Wow, I take it that some people just don't read the words all the way through. I never said it was right for anyone to rape a child. did I not say that when Non Consentual or children come in to play that it was time to seek help? wow. I'm simply pointing out that all the counsiling in this world will not change what turns a person on. I didn't say that someone should be totally free to act upon their desires. Just wow. Not even sure why I'm waisting my time with this. What's the point writing something that isn't going to be read and thought about anyway?
Ok, my last post was a bit of a knee jerk reaction, so I appologize. No, I don't defend or condone a paedophile's behavior. We all have rights, but our rights end where someone else's begin. All I'm saying is that if the person indeed has a conscience to go with it, it must be a terribly lonely place to be and I'd sure hate to find myself there. Wouldn't you? If children turned you on, and it was a very strong desire, what would you do? how would you handle it? It's easy to point a finger and say what someone else should do, but when you put yourself in their shoes, it's a bit more tricky. I truly believe that my conscience wouldn't let me molest a child, no matter how strong my desires might be, but I don't have that desire, so I can't say what I'd do.
I have my own desires, and I think that if I knew they were something I could never act upon at all, I'd rather just commit suicide and be done with it. Sexuality is a part of us. I really can't imagine having no sexual desires at all.
Hey, I'm gonna get serious now. I agree with Anthony in saying that paedophile's with at least something of a contience must be pretty messed up. They need help, and a lot of 'em don't get it. There are lots of ignorant people out there, hence a few posts from people who shall remain nameless, and they just figure they're always gonna be that way and should just stay the hated unwanted creature everyone thinks they are. I've had one case when I had to deal with a guy like that. It's crazy, but one of my old friends used to be that way. I didn't like it, but I didn't judge them because they had an overwhelming sense of guilt to go with their little fedish. I don't defend this fedish, I think it's absolutely disgusting. But they're people too, all but the ones who don't give a shit, who are the people in jale because they make their turn ons known. I wanted to get the hell away from my friend who thought that way, but I didn't because he was there to listen to me vent, I wanted to do that for him. On the other hand, this is not a fedish exactly it's more of an obsession. It's really disturbing and the people who have this fedish need help. But as was posted above some place, there ain't enough little helpers in the world to take the feeling for children away.
Right, so where do we draw the line at what we sympathise with?
As I said above, we perhaps can't help the way we feel, but we can certainly help whether we act on those feelings. So – a paedophile might abuse young children and feel guilty about it afterwards. But he will probably still continue to do it. He might not help the feelings, but he has control over his acting on those feelings. We can sympathise with the urge and the need to fight the urge, but once he acts on it he has made a conscious choice.
Let's take it one step further:
A man has major insecurities. These manifest in possessive behaviour. So, every time his wife goes out he becomes insanely jealous, to the point that he beats her up when she comes home. He has no control over the anger he feels; he has to let it out, so he does. But after the event he feels incredibly guilty about it, he apologises and tells her it will never happen again. Until next time. Do we sympathise with him? We might have an understanding for the circumstances that lead to the act, but once he acts he crosses a line and loses the right to the understanding.
I might not judge the paedophile for having the thoughts. But once he acts on them I judge that. Anyone who says we shouldn't surely needs to question why.
And as I've said, this is where some serious help is needed. I said that from point one.
Beautifully said! It'slike the drunk driver. Sure, we can sympathise with the alcoholic who's trying to stay on the wagon. But what happens when he goes and drinks a bottle of hard shit and then kills two innocent children, or an old woman or a blind person for that matter? Many alcoholics can be saved from that life and wind up as truly decent people. Some continue to drink but do so at home and would never harm anyone. But I've heard once a rapist always a rapist, even if you never do it again. It's still in you. But maybe, just maybe, there is a way to hypnotise or drug these potential child molesters, at least, into not acting, to truly make them know, with the core of their being, that it's wrong and that horrible things will happen if they do it. That might lead to suicide in some but at least the children will be safe and those who really can rise above it will do so. But I still wouldn't feel comfortable living near one.
It might take a horrible act to show the person that they've gone too far. If they continue to do it, never learning, never trying, then sure, they deserve what they get. A lot of people go through life never learning from their mistakes, making the same mistakes over and over and over again. If the person commits some horrible crime and then wakes up and realizes how bad the situation is and seeks help to try to overcome it, then don't they even deserve a chance?
When I was very little, I used to do things without thinking--attack people, scream at people, reacting to nothing at all. And for all my life I have struggled to get around these random things in my mind that defy explanation and that I couldn't reach to try and explain. I used to fly in to terrible rages and, for the moment, I delighted in hurting people, in causing as much pain and damage as I possibly could. I had no idea what would trigger it but when it had run its course I felt terrible. I remember locking myself in my room for over a month, creeping out when there wasn't the slightest sign of life around so I could get food and take care of things. I was convinced that it was the sight or sound of other people that did this. For several years I almost never spoke to or interacted with anyone because the guilt I had of actually liking to hurt people wouldn't even let me talk most of the time, or look at people, or go near anyone. It's the most shameful thing I've ever had to admit to, but what most people call "evil" was once delightful to me. It's lessened and lessened as I've fought it, and I have fought it with every last resource I have and then some. So now I know I can't get rid of it, but I've forced my mind in to another mind set. I will only take it out on people who have done equally what I will do to them. I still have problems, and once I have gotten in to this "vengeance-cycle" I've channeled this in to, it can be almost impossible to get me out of it. So there could be pedophiles in the same mental/emotional situation I'm in. As disgusting and horrible as they are, if I could start fighting when I was twelve, they can start it now. Those who act on it are weaklings, and subconsciously, they don't really want to change, or they'd try.
Wonderfully said, Claire. I can sympathize with the person who is fighting whatever issue it is. But once they've acted, they've lost all my understanding. they may commit that crime, wake up and realize they've made a mistake. But in the case of a pedifile, or an abuser, etc, they've already destroyed another person's life, and I have no sympathy for that. My sympathy lies with the person whose life has been destroyed against their consent or control, not with the one who did it.
After thinking about it, here's what I come up with. My mother babysat a girl who had the measles. She did this when she was 3 months pregnant with me. She did realize that she was pregnant and that the girl was sick, but she didn't think anything bad would come of it. I caught the measles, but my mother did not. by the reasoning above, I should totally hate her, since she gave me many disadvantages right from the start and totally changed my life. I won't say she ruined it, but I will say that I'm definitely paying for her mistake, and will pay for it for the rest of my life. She does feel guilty, but what can she do? Does she deserve any simpathy?
That's exactly what I was thinking. It's not like we're talking about someone who just broke a window, shoplifted etc. Sure, those are crimes, but usually, no one gets hurt from them. To feathery: that was truly admirable of you to admit something so deep and personal in such a public space. I too have a rage, an anger inside of me. It was nowhere as bad as your's but when I was a child, I would throw things, scream, say things just to provoke people, scratch people etc. I feel horrible for those things now, and in my case at least, I learned that it was because I was fighting to understand my blindness and to get attention. Even though I've been blind since I was two-months-old, I guess I had to figure it out when I was a child, and since I had no friends, that only made things worse. Like you, I've learned to act that way only when someone truly hurts me, but I still have thoughts of revenge on people who cause me trouble from time to time. But as you said, I don't act on them. I stopped that when I was about 10 or 11. I'd never hurt someone truly innocent. The thought makes me sick.
I agree with Alicia's last post; very, very well said.
As do I. If you have a feddish that could involve harming others, that's fine, but please, please keep it reserved to your thoughts only.
ah. Now I can agree with what's being said here. I can also relate to Fethery in a way, and this kinda explains why it pisses me off when people start hating and completely up and down trashing men who have these fedishes. As long as they don't act on it in any way shape or form, what's the problem? I
Back about 5 years ago or so, I was brudally beaten by my boyfriend for 6 months for not saying yes to his marriage proposal. I wasn't ready for that committment, I was only 20. But he decided to beat the crap out of me for it and leave me on my mother's front steps. I never saw him again, but ever since then I feel a certain passionate hate toward men. Now it's very burried and hidden deep down inside, and I love men. I love sex and all that bit. But the first few years after that insadent, I hated men a lot. I beat up every boyfriend I had. It almost went too far one day and I decided to get help to stop my madness.
Anyway, I acted on my impulsive temper and anger flares. I don't like that. I don't like feeling that guilt I felt and still feel for it. I know many people, paetophiles or whoever I don't give a damn, has that guilt for something they can't control. That's my point of view. Sorry for getting pissed up there. haha
Jessie
My only response to this is the following:
There is a fettish for eating or being eaten by others, usually swallowed whole. If you get turned on by someone biting off your finger and swallowing it, I reserve the right to judge you, commit you, and then run away screaming.
Anthony, you cannot compare someone who exposes their unborn baby to measles with someone who knowingly and deliberately goes out and abuses a child.
There is a vast difference between someone who does something knowing that there may be a risk, but equally knowing there may not, and someone who does something knowing that there will be a consequence (not just the risk of consequence).
If a pregnant woman is exposed to measles, there is a chance that the virus may harm the unborn baby. However equally there is a chance it will not. Most pregnant women will actively seek to not expose themselves, however sometimes circumstances dictate that they have no choice. So if something goes wrong and the baby is born with disabilities as a result, then of course that mother is going to carry guilt with her.
But if a paedophile goes out and abuses a child, there's no "maybe" about it – he is going to ruin the rest of that child's life.
Also, the difference between the mother of the unborn child and the paedophile is that the mother will do what is best for her baby in most circs, and the guilt she feels if something goes wrong is then down to her feeling she didn't do what was best for her child. Whereas the paedophile has only his own pleasure in mind; he abuses the child because of the pleasure he gains from doing so.
And guilt does not necessarily make it ok. If the other feels guilt for exposing her child to a harmful virus then she of course deserves sympathy – it was something beyond her control and where she had perceived the risks to be neglidgeable. But if a paedophile feels guilt after abusing a child all I can say is, so he bloody well should. He knew what he was doing; he acted upon it; he shouldn't expect sympathy just because he felt guilty after the event. He had the choice, he made the choice, he cannot expect sympathy just because he wasn't able to control his urges.
Well put. I can't disagree with that. I guess all I'm saying is that while I of course would have simpathy for the child that was molested, I would try to have compassion for the paedophile if it was obvious that steps were being taken to try to atone for the mistake and seeking help to try and make sure it didn't happen again. I see that I'm the odd one out, so I'll hush.
the problem with many paedophiles though anthony is that they're very manipulative. That's exactly how they gain the trust of the children they abuse - they are just those kinds of people that people warm to. So I would find it hard to sympathise even if the child abuser showed remorse because someone who can use their personality to gain the trust of innocent young children in order to abuse them could equally do so in order to gain the sympathy of people once he had been caught.
K, now it's getting beaten to death. Bottom freakin line: A paetophile should not be hated and judged and trashed until they act on their feelings. Once they harm a child in any way, thhey deserve no sympethy or understanding and they can go to hell as far as I'm concerned. If they have these feelings and never do anything about it, who's life are they destroying except for their own? It don't hurt us none but for the fact that we think it's strange and disgusting. I think it's the most sick fedish in the world, and I don't like men with those feelings and thoughts. it's just sick. But no one can control what they feel. The only thing they can control is if or not they act on it, and the second they do, they've lost all my sympethy you damn well better believe it. Damn, I didn't know this was gonna come out of this topic, but hell, people can get in heated discussion about anything obviously. lol, I'm not gonna post on this one if this conversation continues, and once it stops, it'll be worth looking at again. haha thanks
Jessie
Well, that's what most of us are trying to say. the feddish isn't a bad thing until you act it out.
A potential movie star who never demonstrates their tallent isn't a movie star, are they? A singer who never sings for anyone isn't really a singer, are they? A petifile isn't really a petifile until they act out their desires, are they?
Here's an interesting twist to the conversation. What if someone comes from a culture where it's acceptable to marry at 12 or 13, because his people have a far shorter lifespan than those of The West. Then he comes to America, where, of course, this kind of behaviour is against the law as well as most people's morals. He might or might not be attracted to such young people, but if he is, do we view it as needing to teach what's culturally appropriate or as needing to cure a disease?
hmm, that's interesting. I don't know. I would think if he's that culturally different that it's ok and even incouraged for a man to marry a teenage girl, I wouldn't think he would be in America at all. But if he did hypothetically, I guess we'd all look down on him and try to incourage him to divorce. But americans aren't likely to throw him in jale or force him out of the country for it or anything I don't think.
He could be fairly young, maybe coming here for business or with his parents for some reason. But I wasn't thinking that he's married. I was thinking of him being attracted to what, in our eyes, would be considered children. Surely, he'd need to learn that he couldn't do that here. But how do we go about teaching him why it's wrong?
well in that case, we'd just make sure we have someone, maybe the president or a cop or whoever does that work, explain to him the law. We'll give him a warning, and if he acts on his attraction to a child, then we'll put him in jale like we do everyone else.
I know this will sound totally disgusting to us, but strictly biologically speaking, is the desire for young teens a holdover from the past? Sure, we're civilised and wouldn't allow it, but back in the hunter gatherer days, you were lucky to hit 30 or 40. So it made sense to go with someone who was old enough to have a child but not too old that she might be reaching the end of her short life. If that's true, then we're looking, not just at a mindset, but at a primal human urge and need that is no longer necessary but that some people might still inherit. Incest, of course, is wrong. But it has many implications, most importantly for this discussion, the biological one of inbreeding. So it's an almost universal taboo among all cultures, past and present. An exception is the ancient Hawaiians, whose royal family married their ciblings. Interestingly enough, rape is the same way. There is, in fact, at least one culture in the world without rape. Unfortunately, I don't recall it's name. All of this is from my days in anthropology in college. But if such a society can exist, then it leads us to the question of why, even if the primal urge for someone young is present, a man would wish to rape a woman or a child if it's not a biological reason. And if it's not, then the rapist must be held accountable because he didn't do something from within his subconscious, but rather, consciously and knowingly acted upon his feelings and harmed another human being in the process.
this is very controversial, but I really don't see why so many people get bent out of shape if a teenager participates in consensual sex. As long as he/she is mature enough to understand what that means, and both parties are equally okay with it, I have no problem with that. It's when some creepy person, man or woman, rapes someone underage, or even of age, for that matter, when the person is clearly not consenting. This is what I have a problem with.
There's a difference between, someone maybe 16 or 17 wanting to have sex (and many times, even that is too young) and someone 13 or 14 wanting to do it. I don't think, in most cases today, that the maturity and full understanding of the act is there. Many of these people don't even use protection or think of the risk of stds and that's a serious problem.
Eleni,
Modern pedophiles, from what I have heard, generally rape in their own families; incest is the highest incidence of pedophilia. I don't know if that's true, but if it is, it adds to the unnaturalness of the whole thing.
But you're right in earlier times people didn't live much past their thirties, if then. Men and women alike. In fact, men have always had shorter lifespans, provided the woman didn't die in childbirth. So with people living such short lives, it's unlikely you'd have the great age gap between big adults and little kids. And besides, we're talking prepubescents here, for which there is clearly no evolutionary advantage at all to rape. In fact, most people's reactions on here could be seen as the clear evolutionary advantage, where a known rapist of prepubescent kids would cause such instinctive and reflexive reaction so as to kill and waste him / everything that belongs to him. In primitive cultures it wasn't good enough just to kill the enemy, you destroyed everything he / she had, possibly attempting to promulgate your genes and not theirs in the gene pool.
So no, I don't think this particular problem had any evolutionary benefit ever.
As to the culture without rape, I've not heard of it, but would be curious. And is it really without rape, or simply without sufficient structures to deal with it?
Thanks for clarifying. I was actually wondering about those interested in women in their early teens. Of course, you're right that going with anyone prepubessence wouldn't have any evolutionary benefit. From what I heard, the culture is entirely without rape. The idea is totally foreign to them.
well if a person from that culture happened to come to the US, I'm sure the laws wouldn't even slightly bend for them. I'm sure they'd still get the same punishment for acting on impulse or attraction to a underage girl. Simply being attracted to them isn't gonna be punished, unless they're looking at child porn or anything like that, but once they do something about it it's all over. As far as teenagers having sex with each other, I don't think teenagers under 18 are mature enough anyway. They shouldn't do it, but I ain't gonna say anything. It usually ends in tradgity anyway, and that ain't my problem. I waited till I was 19 and mature enough to handle a sexual relationship, and look, no babies or diseases. wow!
As far as petophiles raping kids I already told you my view on that.
Jessie
To say that people under eighteen aren't mature enough is a very general statement. I'm not saying it's not true, but not for some cases. I know someone under age, sixteen, who is doing it, and is using protection every time.
hay guys. just a comment that fetish does not equal pedophile. I think we're slightly off topic here lol. to post 68 regarding vore, action, not intent, basically.
Quite true. We strayed far from the original topic here. *smile* There are many perfectly innocent and fun fetishes out there,not just the bad ones.
Yeah ain't that what I've been trying to say?
I'm sick of all the seriousness damn it. The only reason I dug this topic up and brought it back to the top is because I thought it would be fun to talk about. I had no idea it would turn into this big debate about sexual preditors. lol
I don't know if this topic is worn down or what, but Can we please quit the petophile talk? :) I love oral sex. Some people say that's just a normal enjoyment of a certain type of sex, some people say it's a fedish. hmm, I wonder. I like it probably more than a lot of people
Let's talk about something like that. haha
Jessie
most topics go astray from the original poster's intent. if ya haven't noticed by now, that's the zone for ya. lol.
oral sex is not listed on the psychological list of fettishes, I checked. Sorry jessie, your normal.
However, been turned on by trees is listed, so you may one day see someone humping a tree. Gives a whole new meaning to the term tree hugger.
hahaha, wow. I ain't heard of that one. I guess I ain't lived till I've seen someone humping a tree hah? lol, damn it. I don't wanna be normal. Oh well, guess you are too Cody. :)
HMM LETS SEE, ATTRACTION TO HEADPHONES? HAIR? STUFFED ANIMALS? UM...SHOES? FEAT? Vampirism? I've heard it all folks :d
wo, I'm interested in the headphones one. hahaha, what the hell?!
I new a guy who could only get turned on by girls saying certain words. I can't remember them all. but headphones was one, so was knife, so was angel. strange ae?
Oh my god! I love my headphones...the ones with the foam pads. They bring me so much joy! It's indescribable! I put them on my head and listen for hours! And yes, sometimes, I do make them play things that bring me sexual pleasure. LOL.
Oh my God! Me Too! hahaha
It's what comes out of the headphones for me... Mmm, Markos Vamvakaris for a very good start to a magical evening! I actually just got a new pair and they're amazing! Very comfortable and block out all the noise. And a tree fetish? lol Now I've heard it all! I just need to find someone who loves baskets, soaps and candles and I'll be in business... literally!
hahaha, I knew a guy who liked extra fat. like flab. I mean, usually girls with all kinds of flab on their arms and belly or whatever are usuallly unattractive, but this guy loved that. I think he liked to suck on it and jiggle it. I think that's strange ... probably not as bad as headphones ... but still. hahaha
Hmmm, I don't know about soap, but conditioner is really wonderful... hahaha It makes showertime sooo much fun.
I've heard some things about shaving cream...Hmm. Lol.
lmao guys.
Oh yes, that works quite well too. I haven't used it in a long time though. Hmmm, have to put that on the to do list.
Edge shaving cream is good for that kind of stuff, it has a hint of eucalyptus, which gives you a hot/cold sensation... mmm.
Oo'oo, thanks for that little tip, big fella.
I have one thing to say:
We have no control over the random events of fate or the random factors that form our lives and personalities.
However, we have ultimate control over our actions, our emotions and our thoughts. Control does not mean eliminating the problem. It means mastering it. When we have control, we have not destroyed that which we seek to master. We have come to a balance with it, because it will not control us.
Headphones???
Trees????
I've heard it all. damn.
I love hearing about what turns people on, whether it's strange or not, so this is a great topic. Let's keep it going. I'd put mine here, but everyone probably already knows anyway, so...
lol Thanks for the marketing survey. I'll have to consider that when making my products. these aren't just ordinary soaps. They're all natural and sexy! hahaha
I like the feel of wrinkles on the hands, face and neck of a man. For some reason, I just find them attractive.
Are they orgasmic, Um, I mean, organic?
I want someone who can sing me to sleep....and play me amazing music. I'd take either one, preferrably both. and long, soft hair I can run my hands through. and a rich, deep, musical voice, with an exotic accent. and, just, mmmmm. I'm done now. *runs away*
I still find being turned on by eating or being eaten by other people as the worst one of all. That is simply disgusting. I don't think I could get turned on by someone swallowing someone else's toe or finger. That just isn't sexy.
Though, according to psychiatrists, being turned on by "talking dirty" is a fettish. If that's true, I'm guilty.
Opa! Me too! And feathery, that sounds like a dream partner. My boyfriend is a musician and when he gets started on the keyboard, magic flows from his fingertips. He can make a rinky dink child's keyboard sound like a pro model!
oh I love musicians to. deffenetly sexy.
mmmmm, I love dirty talk. I also like spankins. rrrrrrrrar
That one's gotta be a fedish. mmmmmm yeah baby.
One of my other little turn ons is when a guy cuddles me and babys me, kinda does whatever he wants to me. I love it when I'm cuddled up by a man and laying my head on his chest and he's got his arms around me. Holding me, squeezing me, talking dirty in my ear, mmmmm, that gives me chills.
And then there's the spankins. heeyah!!! OW Baby! mmm, Oh hell yeah! :)
I agree that spanking is definitely a fetish. The only type of man who'd enjoy doing that to me would be one who has a fetish for broken hands or knocked out teeth. lol
Here's another weird one. I've heard that some people actually have a fetish for sweat. I guess when you think about it, almost anything can be a fetish. But I really must laugh at technology ones. I mean, I love my DOS computer, but it doesn't belong on the bed when it's play time. lol
ummm? what to do with a shaving cream?
I'm confused, now.
Raaj.
teeheeheehee, shaving cream is fun. :)
Hmm, now I'm curious too!
I like lotion, shaving cream, bodywash ... mmmmm. Gotta have a man with big strong hands though, but soft skin is good too.
Well, sweat carries pheromones, so it fires up the whole attraction and arousal.
As soon as someone with skill or a good voice lays hands on a keyboard or sings, I am lost, completely spellbound, I know the feeling Tiff, I used to date someone who played a range of musical instruments and styles. He didn't sing though. Too bad...
Oh yes spankings... I'm all about getting those and let's see being called names having my hair pulled, being tied up. Those are just a few of the fetishes I have.
Hmmm, I'm more into giving spankins, but yeah ... And I don't take well to being called names or having my hair pulled. I usually get real violent at that point, but I guess that's just the cowgirl in me. lol
I love to spank and receive spankings, please... bite!!!, ooh, I love eating pussy to. ya, pulling hair is fun while hitting it from the back doggy style or spooning. Its fun when you can do both pulling hair and spanking.
Yeah i am with u on that iyana. actually its a damn shame they never play and sing at the same time, and if they do, there is something else majorly rong with them. dammit. think i have the perfect man though. lol but here goes my feddishes folks. think i have spoken these to most before actually publically in public quicknotes. but i love having my feet kissed and my toes sucked on, and i have a pain feddish. not like whips and chains pain, but pain. oh yeah, and i like to be bitten. not like super hard but enough to feel good yet hurt a bit at the same time. now that i have put that out there. yall have a nice day. lol
If you can think of it, their is a fetish for it. Read the rules of the internet.
I have a fettish for musical cards - those ones that you can record a message on - I like the sound of breathing when it is recorded on them, because it turne me on - I just know that the girl who has been to the card warehouse has handled that very card - trouble is, the batteries are not re chargable in those cards :(
wow! i like being cuddled. and kissed deeply. and. layed on top of a hot sexy body! i also love getting my feet tickeled. and. love. makeing my man. hot. plus. i love hearing the sound mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! it turnes me on. and being licked on. and i love nibbleing on tthe ear. and. feelingthem getting hard.
Hmmm, recordable greeting cards? That's interesting. At first, I figured that a cassette tape or CD or Memory card would do the same thing, but I think I see what you mean. The girl is actually holding the card in her hands and making the recording on it, where with a tape or other media, the media is inside of a machine, so it doesn't get as much direct contact with her. This one is something I've never heard of before. Interesting.
I've never heard of that one, either. uh, interesting is right, though.
Yeah that's real interesting, but not completely hard to comprehend. I can understand why that might be kinda ... sexy in a way, to actually be touching what that person touched while they recorded their asumedly sexy voice. lol, nice. I get it.
If dirty talk is considered a fettish, then I think many, many people have that one. Name calling is out of the question for me: I will not call my partner names, nor tolerate being called names, either. Slight biting is good. Tried the hair pulling thing once, not really for me. i'm really surprised that dirty talk is considered a fettish, but oral sex is not. You'd think it would be.
For anyone in to dirty talk, look up the erotic letters of James Joyce. This stuff was written before my grandmother was born, and while some of the out of date slang is hilarious as hell, it's some filthy stuff. It would probably either humor most people, or just turn them off all together. What I found so exciting about it was his obviously high state of sexual arousal. He would write until he came in his pants. Now to me, that's just fuckin hot.
Wow, that must be some damn serious writing.
right that had to be some hardcore writing. lol that made me laugh
mmm guys that can sing... i mean really sing. oh mmm
Giving oral!!! Yeah, should definitely be a fetish as should love of the penis in general. Same with vagina for those who enjoy that.
If oral sex was a fedish, that's mine. I love that. I'd get it all day straight if I could. But dirty talk is too. Big time for me. I can cum just listening to someone explain a sexual situation to me.
That might be one. I get off by listening. Listening to women scream while a guy is licking up and drewling all over her pussy. The wet, sloppy sounds of cum and spit and her moaning and ... ugh. I can get off quick just by hearing a girl suck the guy off and he's gunting. Yum
Jessie
Yep, listening is a huge turn on for me.
I think maybe listening could do it for me, if I could find something that actually sounded real. Everything I've heard so far sounds so damned fake. Well, and if whatever I was listening to wasn't degrading to either partner, as it seems most porn is.
I agree with dawn. I was crazy earlier and was listening to porn a lots.
but now, I've realised as most of them are fake and they are just doing the same over and over. lol. In fact exhaudurating it.
listening to the real recordings could be fun. but not the fake porns.
I do have a fetish. and I'm not sure whether it's a fetish or not but I do love MBBS's. girls who they are coming under member of bigger boobs society. lol.
Raaj.
Even though I have a lot of my vision so I can see the porn, I usually close my eyes and listen to it. It does sound fake, and it's usually degrading to one of them yes, but it turns me on nevertheless. that just shows y'all what horndog I can be. Heh
Jessie
Hehee, and btw, I like the ones that degrade the women the most. I ... don't know why. I really can't explain it. I like fanticizing and listening and hearing about and yes ... watching women submit. Ooo, I don't know what it is, kuz I wouldn't submit in my life. lol
See, that kind of thing repulses me. But if it's your thing, Jessie, go for it. Maybe it turns you on cuz you're watching women do something you never would?
I can do without the degredation. What turns me on is when the guy is fucking the girl really hard and fast, giving it his all. Or, I love listening as she either sucks him off or lubes him up and jerks him off. Perhaps I'm putting myself in her place. Not completely sure, but if she really knows what she's doing and can give the guy a very intense orgasm, I'm all ears.
i actually have to agree with jessy. there is something about seeing another woman submit and be degraded. its sexy. but i'd slap the hell out of a guy if he called me those things but i do like to be dominated. but i also like to dominate i'm versatile. I don't think making love isn't great. i love that a ton too. but, sex isn't just making love. it couldn't be sweet, tender, soft, gentle every time. i'd get bored.
I'm not into degredation at all and don't really get porn. But erotica can be wonderful if the author is talented.
Agreed, Eleni.
Porn does nothing for me.
In my opinion the most intense fetishists of all time are those either Puritanical or otherwise prudish obsessive types playing the role of social peeping tom, trying to acquire knowledge of what everyone else is doing, and looking at it again and again and again, just to make sure they understand just how bad it is. Think Queen Victoria, the Stockholms Laws of the 19th century, the shock radio hosts of today manufacturing titilating tales of what the gay must do, or any other self-obsessed lot.
And to them, anything's a fetish or an addiction that they disapprove of.
Look at their energetic and electrostatic observation / constant communication on such matters. Compare that to the average "vanilla"-persuasion folk like many of us, who are rather disinterested most of the time.
If you think you have a fetish, or know someone who does, I doubt it even remotely competes with the aforementioned.
lol, yeah I think I just like watching a woman submit because I know it would piss me off if I was the woman. I don't know, maybe it's a rush. Can't explain it. As far as reading irotic things, I can't get into it. Maybe kuz I like to masterbate while I'm getting off. Like, I can't read and masterbate very easily, too much concentration. But I can easily turn my tv or computer onto a porno and lay back to listen. Mmmmm, I like hearing spankins, whippins, and like Anthony said, the guy fucking that bitch as hard as physically possible.
Lol, sorry for the language, but that's the nicest way to put it. Heh
Jessie
Wow, Jessie. We like a lot of the same stuff. I also love to hear a guy jerking off, amateur, of course. If he's talking and telling about what sort of fantasies are going through his mind, it's even better, and when the guy is still trying to finish saying something as his orgasm hits and cuts him off, Oh my god! To me, that's about as hot as it gets. I like a lot of different things, but it all goes back to the simple fact that I love hearing a guy in any sort of sexual situation. Yes, there have been a select few voices that just didn't do anything for me at all, but most of the time, if I'm listening to a guy getting it on or being pleasured or even pleasuring himself, it's all delicious.
LOL, no need to apologize for the language or not putting it nicely, Jessie. You know that. Grin.
lmao. different people with different taste. eh?
nowadays, porn does nothing to me. my snake isn't coming out of it's nest. hahah.
Raaj.
lol Raajy darling, I just like porn kuz I can put it on and close my eyes and masterbate. I like listening to guy s jerk it too, but it doesn't really do anything for me if a bitch ain't yelling and moaning in the background. I love hearing him whip her too, and hearing her scream, Mmmmm, demeaning names does the rest for me. I don't know why, but that is real hot.
Jessie
I don't know. Porn and fantasy and stuff like that where it's all on you to imagine or all on your ears to listen doesn't quite do it for me. I need to feel his skin against mine, or his hands on my body, or his breath on my neck or something. I'm not into the names or the pain or any of that, but I love talking dirty or being talked to dirty. I kinda like hickies and hardcore making out where we nibble each other's lips and stuff too. One thing I have to say that I love about being blind is not knowing what he's gonna do next. That's so hot. It's like an amazing surprise every time. I don't think I have any outlandish interests though... Feet gross me out, especially the smell of them, and anything to do with blood is just wrong to me. And omg, the only bodily fluid I wanna be consuming is cum, lol.
oo wow. this topic is shooting up.
there were days I've kissed my computer screen by hearing some of the sweet voices. even from the porn audios. but... not now.
Raaj.
lol meanyyyy. while sarah. Yeah porn does nothing for me... just uggg.
yeah...porn does nothing to me either...and yeah, sarah, totally agreed.
I'd hope not Danny. lol
Hmm I love the sound of a lady getting the shit fuck out of her! her screeming, beeing spanked and hells yea!! a guy hitten her puddy from the back and then going to the front tapping the kitty. Don't get me started about when the pussy starts to make those beautiful sounds when it so wet and a guy is tapping it!!.
Omg, Starfly you just made me wet. Heehee, lol
I say, if it aint wet it aint right. Love every kind of slippery jerking, fingering, fucking, licking, slirping sucking cumming sound! Especially love feeling him erupt inside me or twitching and shooting into my mouth as his body jerks and trembles, his moaning between heavy breathing. Need some now. Where's that sexy guy of mine?
mmmmmm, sounsd goood ...
My fetish is for full-figured women wearing pantyhose. I love the feel of them on my fingers, my face, my mouth. The subtle scent of female essence it's yummy to me.
I'd have to say as far as atire, I love it when a girl is just in her underwear or a really nice soft robe or bath towel. As far as outfits, I really get turned on by the Japanese and Catholic schoolgirl uniforms, (knee high socks and pigtails included.) Also, when she is wearing a dress or skirt with nothing on underneath it. Mmmmm. That can be such a turn on when one discovers it. It's playful and naughty. It's also hot when a girl goes from fully dressed to naked and doesn't tell you. What a nice surprise that is when you find out.
lol, something only a blind man can say. :P
lol P:)
I'm with those who say listening does nothing whatsoever for me. In fact, I feel awkward if I happen to hear it. Don't worry. I'm not one of those types that say you can't do anything when I'm around, but I don't choose to listen voluntarily.
Hmmm. That is where we differ. I'll watch and listen and even get up close if I can lol, word of wisdom: don't take your business public when ol Jess is around. :P
Jessie
Yep, if I can listen, I'm right there. Yum.
Yep, me too.
well, in all fairness, it depends on what it is, but yeah. Lesbian sex doesn't really do anything for me. There has to be at least one guy in the picture.
i’d guess you could say i have a few.
my favorite is water sports (a/k/a “golden showers”) in all aspects.
i also like a clean sweaty body, body hair, exhibitionism and voyeurism (often called just exhib/voy), and feet. in addition, i like phone and cyber sex when the real thing is not available.
things i am not into: pain, scat, clothing routines, body alteration, shaved bodies, blood, and twinks (the last because they look too much like children; i do not know the term for such a female).
since i am bisexual, i should mention that the gender i like most is both at once!
I actually have a few different ones, I am not actually focused on one or another. I have top 10 list of female archetypes that I love whether for there outfits, toysequipment they might naturally use or etc. And I also like basic fetishes like being tied up, although I don't consider myself as submissive, I just think being tied up is like getting a really strong hug, or an embrace that doesn't let go.
pardon the mispell, I was trying to say that things like handcuffs for example make a nice sex toy in adition to there natural use in law enforcement, so the sexy cop is on of my top 10.
Oh boy, spank me, tie me up, slap me, talk dirty to me...
Huh?
Well hey if people are into that more power to them.
Mmmmmmm, adventure makes the world go round, LOL
Well, there's a bunch of fetishes out there. Here's my favorites from wikapedia.
list of perephilias
Anililagnia Attraction by young men to older women
Coprophilia Scat Feces
Crush fetish Squashing of animals, food, or other objects <oops scuse me>
Emetophilia Vomit <makes me sick>
Formicophilia Being crawled on by insects <ooooo!>
Forniphilia Human furniture Turning a human being into a piece of furniture <is this chair taken?>
Klismaphilia Enemas <you nearly stuck that thing up my ass>
Liquidophilia Immersing genitals in liquids
Necrophilia Corpses
Olfactophilia Smells
Paraphilic infantilism Adult baby/Diaper lover Sexual arousal based on dressing or being treated like a baby, also known as autonepiophilia
Piquerism Sexual gratification through penetration of another person, most commonly by stabbing or cutting the body with sharp objects.
Podophilia Foot fetish
Pygophilia Buttocks
Sacofricosis Making a hole in a pocket in order to masturbate unobtrusively in public
Somnophilia Sleeping or unconscious people
Splanchnophilia Entrails
Sthenolagnia Muscle worship Muscles and displays of strength
Teratophilia Deformed or monstrous people
Urolagnia Piss play Urination, particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on
Vorarephilia The idea of eating or being eaten by others; usually swallowed whole, in one piece
Bob
Swallowed whole. How was that one studied?
I wondered that.
My favorite is:
Forniphilia Human furniture Turning a human being into a piece of furniture.
Don't see how that one works.
Bob
I can see taking body parts and making a chair I guess.
alright i said it else where, never done it, but while masterbating i always, seem to get images of being fucked by a woman wearing a strap on, fetish? i don't know. i think so, but as i said, never had anything physically.
cybar? that's a whole nother bucket of fish.
have a dildo, but no matter what i do with it i can't, get it in. i'm just too dam tight. so hot images will probably never happen.
Entrails? How do you suppose people pull that one off?
When you fixate on one single thing, object, body part, article of clothing etc, and you can't be turned on by anything else but that one thing, that is considered a fedesh. Sometimes it could be a certain act or behavior during sex but I think that gets more into the paraphilias. But the key is that you have to have that one thing in order to be turned on, that's what makes fedeshes abnormal to most. I don't think getting images while masturbating is any type of fedesh, we all have thoughts images or fantacies of some kind while masturbating, sometimes even while being with a partner.
indeed. I myself have several paraphilias and one specific fetish. because of that level of fixation, I am functionally Asexual because my physical partners do not interest me if the object is not involved.
glad to know i'm not obsessed then. that's a relief. i was worried i was an abnormal lesbian.
It's quite normal. A lot of bi and lesbian girls enjoy using toys during sex, strap ons included. Sometimes it's the fact that one wants to be dominated;to give the other control, although the dom/sub thing isn't the only reason. Finally, just because a girl isn't into guys, it doesn't mean that she doesn't find penetration pleasurable. Using a dildo or a strap on would be a great way to hit the g spot... And believe me, it can be done...
This is an interesting topic. I think it's amazing that there's such a variety in fetishes, including dendrophilia, the sexual attraction to trees :P and have wanted to make a documentary about the spectrum of fetishes for a while now...and gender identity... and a bunch of other things! As long as it's consensual, and both parties are over 18, I don't see a problem, unless there is branding or some other form of what I regard as abuse involved.
I don't have any spectacular kinks that I know of, but there's one thing.
Personally, I don't identify as a dominating person, but I've always wanted to explore the male physique in a situation where he is not allowed to touch me at all.
That would definitely be an interesting documentary. I think there is a lot in these subjects that a lot of people could learn from.
lol: good luck doing it without stigmatisation and media hipe.
Yeah, that's a given. But that didn't stop the media from sensationalizing everything from disabilities to hoarders. I could see a documentary like this being pretty successful, actually.
I like my feet rubbed and I don't have any problems ppl worship feets. I like females the age of 42 to 54 years old.
I would not let anyone to pull my hair. If you are going to give me spanky don't do it hard. I like a woman to moan when we make love.
Mmm, where do I start!
Well, siber sex or texts don't quite do it for me. Sometimes a nice accent will get me, especially the Spanish one. The way the woman rolls out the r's...
Biting also does it for me, right on the neck. Not too hard but enough to catch me off guard.
Also I have a fettish for hands, nice and smooth ones though.